Avoid this when having a conversation with someone.

 A) Let me talk about quick reassurance. This is whereby you cut off someone when they are trying to communicate to you, maybe about the situation they’re in and so they express their feelings and concern to you. You should give them time for them to express themselves. Avoid saying to them ‘don’t worry about that’, ‘everything is going to be okay’ etc. What you do is you don’t give them time to process. Remember not everyone will want just get a solution to their problems but to be heard so it’s advisable not to give quick confrontation.

B) Stop patronizing others. Feeling so superior, like you know the other party so well. People go through a lot in their lives, and some may try to speak it out with those they trust, seek help e.g. counseling and to some may end up sharing it on social media. Now wherever you may come across this kind of people, avoid patronizing them. For instance you say ‘ah’ ‘poor thing’ or I know exactly how you feel’. It’s like trying to tell them you already know where they’re coming from and you know what they have been through. Well, it might not be the case; you don’t know anything about their situation.

C) Another block of communication to avoid in your conversation is minimizing people’s situations. When you are saying like, ‘it’s not a big deal’ ‘that’s not important if you really think about it’ etc. avoid this kind of response because to you something might be small, but to them might be a major thing.

D) Preaching. Not everyone when you’re having a conversation will be expecting you to provide an answer to their situation no. most would just want someone they can open their heart to. So if you are that person who likes giving solutions, well this should stop because it’s not for everybody. Preaching is telling others what they should do, or saying ‘why would you do that? Ethnically it is not right at all since what you are doing is you trying to show your moral stance is better than they are.

E) Avoid interrupting the other party during communication. Assuming and jumping that you know where the sentence is coming from. When someone is in the middle of the sentence or question, give them time, be a good listener, and let that person finish.

F) I conclude with why questions. Someone is having a conversation with you of what might have happened to them of which to them they really don’t understand why things have to go south or north that they ended up on the wrong side of the road. Avoid asking why and listen, people tends to get defensive when asked such questions.

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